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[TheNewMrs]

Hey Girlies,
So yesterday my hubby was granted access to see his son for 1 hour a week till sept. He raised his son by himself while mum fled to spain-arrived home and said baby wasnt his... Took the baby and moved away. That was 7 years ago, the baby is now 8 and hubby hasnt seen him in that long, she sent a maintenance order to the house and hubby said he wouldnt pay till he got a paternity test. (He'd asked from the first day she said tht that he wanted one and she wouldnt agree)... 2 days before our wedding we found out the baby is his.

So access starts on Saturday. Obv it will be hubby only for the first few months... I dunno how I feel about it. We haveent told anyone were TTC so I feel like if we do get pregnant people will think its only coz now he has another child?

I do feel upset that he has a child with someone else but thats just a personal thing, Im delighted hes getting to see his son and Im excited that he'll be part of my life too.. I just dunno what my boundries are, what my role is supposed to be???

Ugh! MEssy business...

[TheNewMrs]

[Ruby]

Me Although SS lives in Uk with his mum who is being a right pita for years. DH had his son living with his FT for over 2yrs when SS's mum did as she pleased never once bothering to see the child, then myself and DH got together and she met some bloke and all of a sudden then she started to stick her nose back into SS's life, DH lived in UK at the time he had to work away and was staying away mon-fri so SS';s mum said she would mind SS but many a night she forgot to collect him from childminders and DH would have to drive down to collect him. DH was too soft imo and in the end she took SS for a few nights and refused to let DH have him back DH didnt have a leg to stand on as his name isnt on birth cert, he let her claim LPA and CB etc, she moved house, changed her number and is being so so difficult wouldnt even let SS come to our wedding. She is a miserable b***h And DH is too nice for his own good and wont fight her in courts he thinks once SS is old enough he will understand im not so sure but heyho only so much i can do.

It doesnt bother me that DH has a son from previous relationship shur i have DS1 from a previous relationship

[firsttimer]

Im a step mum to my mans child who is 5yrs old, my fella has full custody and only gives the mother visitation rights, the mother left when baby was 6 months old and my man raised child until he was 3.5yrs, then mother came back on scene and even brought y man to court recently to see child. we usually let the child choose if he wants to see his mother. so in the court she requested less visitation rights and is now down from two nights a week to 12 hours every two weeks which i find unbelievable, she wants maintanance for the 12 hours and that will never happen and she never showed up for her first few visits schedualed by the judge, she is a waster and i cant stand her.
i love being a step mum and it is fantastic, the child doesnt call me mum but we get on really well. sometimes it can be tricky when someone calls me his mum but we usually both burst out laughing and pull a joke or something. being a step parent to my mans child does not create any funny feelings or anything, i love the child like my own and treat him like my own. understandably his family are worried i will do the same with this baby that his ex did with his son and leave and go nuts but that will never happen, im 25 weeks and they are only coming around to the fact that i fully intend to stay with my man forever.