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[soexcited]

Ok so this is a bit of a rant/laugh thread.... but is anyone elses mother and/or mother in law doing their head in with opinions and thoughts on what your baby needs??? any funny stories?
Our parents each have a hang up about one different thing.. my dad always thinks baba wants his soother, my mam always thinks hes hungry, mother in law always thinks hes cold, father in law stays out of it... but all always think baba has wind!!! its awful but they dont seen to have a clue between them. My mam always says to me 'mammy knows best', meaning her now, not me.. im not sure she realises Im a mammy too.. but at the end of it all they all mean the best of course....

[babymakes3]

Oh yeah, I can see this driving me mental in a few weeks time alright! As it is my mother wants me to bring our cot downstairs and set it up in the living room and have babs sleep in it during the day - never mind the fact that I have a crib already set up for downstairs and moses basket for upstairs until babs graduates to the big cot! She only wants me to do this cause my cousin's babys sleeps in the big cot downstairs - hes 14 months old like! Bit different to a newborn methinks!! I'm dreading the "mammy knows best" remarks I'm sure to get! And instead of a MIL (she passed away several years ago bless) I have 4 SILs who all think they are the authority on babies cause they've all had loads! Grrr! I can handle my own mother by telling her I'll do things my way but the in laws are another story altogether!

[soexcited]

O god the poor baby would be lost in the cot!! we've the moses basket downstairs and crib upstairs... thats kinda odd about the cot gas what they get into their heads!

[firsttimer]

my mother has advised me that she is moving in with me and i better get a spare bed organised because there is no way that i will be able to deal with a new born baby because my man will be at work and i have to look after his son too. i mean come on, im going to bar her from the house, i need to do this on my own, she was lucky i suppose, we always had her mother living with us when she had us so she had a nanny in place full time. but i feel like im going to be overcrowded and that might make me nervous and unable to bond and learn about the things i need to on my own

[babymakes3]

O god the poor baby would be lost in the cot!! we've the moses basket downstairs and crib upstairs... thats kinda odd about the cot gas what they get into their heads!

I know!! Just cause my cousin is doing it with his toddler You'd swear she never had kids of her own If the run up to our wedding was anything to go by (got a LOT of the mammy knows best around then!) we're in for a time of it!!

[soexcited]

my mother has advised me that she is moving in with me and i better get a spare bed organised because there is no way that i will be able to deal with a new born baby because my man will be at work and i have to look after his son too. i mean come on, im going to bar her from the house, i need to do this on my own, she was lucky i suppose, we always had her mother living with us when she had us so she had a nanny in place full time. but i feel like im going to be overcrowded and that might make me nervous and unable to bond and learn about the things i need to on my own

Oh id be the same, Id rather do it myself, even though its hard work its manageable...

[babymakes3]

Yeah me too! I love my mum but jeez, she knows how to push my buttons!!

Had one of my SIL say to me at the weekend (for the billionth time!) "you're never gonna have a social life again, you know that don't ya!" I just looked at her and said that my family are more than willimg to babysit if I want them to (first grandchild on my side, whereas its the 12th on DHs side so they're all sick of babysitting) My sister happened to be there and she said that I'll never be short of babysitters, that her and my mum are arguing already over it Well ya shoulda seen the look of pure disgust on my SILs face! Haha! Like I know my social life wont be the same, we made a consciois decision to have this child, she doesnt have to go saying it but I loved the way my sister said those things to her. Wiped that know it all grin off her face!

[soexcited]

Yeah me too! I love my mum but jeez, she knows how to push my buttons!!

Had one of my SIL say to me at the weekend (for the billionth time!) "you're never gonna have a social life again, you know that don't ya!" I just looked at her and said that my family are more than willimg to babysit if I want them to (first grandchild on my side, whereas its the 12th on DHs side so they're all sick of babysitting) My sister happened to be there and she said that I'll never be short of babysitters, that her and my mum are arguing already over it Well ya shoulda seen the look of pure disgust on my SILs face! Haha! Like I know my social life wont be the same, we made a consciois decision to have this child, she doesnt have to go saying it but I loved the way my sister said those things to her. Wiped that know it all grin off her face!

Aw I hate these comments... or the usual 'get your sleep now while you can'..... like as if we didnt know that having a baby would give us sleepless nights! I swear some people are out to burst pregnant peoples bubble... why??? Im now convinced that the older generation (as in MIL) have totally forgotten how to care for a baby.. well thats my experience anyway, hopefully its not the case for the rest of you.

[babymakes3]

No I think you're right soexcited! My mother has told me straight out that she can't remember the first thing about minding babies and she'll be learning everything from scratch so I do think that some of these kinda remarks are a bit excessive coming from the older generation! Its mainly the women around me that have kids that I HATE hearing that advice from! And I know they're the women who'd be pi$$ed off if I was to be giving them advice about it iykwim! I've told my friends who don't have kids that if I ever speak to them with unwanted advice they're to tell me where to go! I just find it very condescending! I mean, no one told them how to rear their kids so who made them the authority on child rearing? Bugs me!

[soexcited]

Exactly!!! I think a mother knows what her child needs, advise should be given when asked for, otherwise back off!

[babymakes3]

Oh God if I'm this vehement on the topic before bubs is even here I'm sure I'll be a nightmare to deal with! I told my in laws the other day that the names we've picked for either a boy or a girl can be shortened into nicknames that neither hubby or I are fond of and I said "The first one of you that abbreviates my baby's name be warned! You won't do it again!" They were highly unimpressed but hubby agreed with me and that was the main thing! I think when people shorten your child's name or give them a nickname based on their name it just is a bit disrespectful! I mean, if I wanted to call my child by the abbreviated version I would have called them that!

[soexcited]

Sure look we picked a name for our baby and my parents-in-law constantly pronounce it wrong!!! we've corrected them a million times..... SAY IT RIGHT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[babymakes3]

Oh God that'd bug me! Just got a call off hubby telling me his sisters rang him earlier to tell him they're gonna buy Fairy Non Bio for us cause its on offer at the minute. Fair enough but they'd already rang me to tell me and I said I can't use it cause it gives me a rash. Therefore gonna stick with my trusty Persil. They said sure could I not wash babys clothes in Fairy and use the Persil myself, I tried to explain that even holding the child after their clothes being washed in something I'm allergic to would be fairly crap for me. And yet they still ring hubby to tell him they're getting it anyway. Of course I got thick and told him I couldn't use it and then he got thick that we would seem ungrateful and wouldnt even listen when I tried to explain they'd already spoken to me about it! For crying out loud, in laws!! They would wreck ya!!!

[pebbles]

ooh in-laws..dont talk to me after my rant there earlier this week! my MIL rang me during the week, obviously my SIL who i get on really well with told her i wasnt well so she felt the need to call.
my own mother is getting a bit headwrecking...she means so well but at same time can drive me nuts. she was up in my house one day recently and there was dust on the stairs! she's like..oh you'd wanna start getting into a routine now every day to keep on top of ur washing and ur hoovering every day, im like MAM i work 5 days a week.. theres not a frickin hope of me hoovering the stairs whn i get home! she's coming from a place where shes usually been at home and housework is the main part of her day and thats the priority!
i told her im gonna hopefully breastfeed n i said i might have to feed on demand..she like.oh but sure thats silly, how are u going to keep up with washing and cooking dinners?
jesus is there life beyond washing and hoovering!

[soexcited]

ooh in-laws..dont talk to me after my rant there earlier this week! my MIL rang me during the week, obviously my SIL who i get on really well with told her i wasnt well so she felt the need to call.
my own mother is getting a bit headwrecking...she means so well but at same time can drive me nuts. she was up in my house one day recently and there was dust on the stairs! she's like..oh you'd wanna start getting into a routine now every day to keep on top of ur washing and ur hoovering every day, im like MAM i work 5 days a week.. theres not a frickin hope of me hoovering the stairs whn i get home! she's coming from a place where shes usually been at home and housework is the main part of her day and thats the priority!
i told her im gonna hopefully breastfeed n i said i might have to feed on demand..she like.oh but sure thats silly, how are u going to keep up with washing and cooking dinners?
jesus is there life beyond washing and hoovering!

aw sure they dont understand the feeding on demand.. thats what I do and I heard enough about it at this stage from MIL..... grrrrr