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[lainey84]

just so we can have a moan n get our feelings of tiredness/ despair/what the hell do you need baby off our chests!


I'll start
I am just wrecked tired. little man will not settle at night- crying for hours straight ......... l look like crap, so weepy and none of my clothes fit me anymore........

and my oh went back to work today so it is my first day on my own with little man.......

Roll on lack of hormones overriding my system and little man settling!

[soexcited]

I'll be adding to this thread soon!! good idea... I dont quite know enough to advise you but keep going, as far as Im told every new mammy feels this way! try sleep when baby sleeps.

[mom2djp]

aww hun sorry little man isnt settling for you. its stressfull doing it all on your own, but when (it will happen, hopefully soon) he gets into a routine life becomes a little easier. is he colic???? have you tried infacol if his finding bringing up the wind a bit hard???

as for the clothes, give yourself some time, im still freaking out but it will take time for our body to get back to normal. celbs makes it so much harder cas i felt like the baby was out i should get my figure back in a few weeks, nearly two mths on im no-where near what i was but it has gotten a bit better.

if you have to put a ban on people calling for a bit, do cas this wont help you feel any better cas i remember feeling like i needed to look good and have my house perfect, and really its hard to do everything and cope with having a new baby. sleep when little man is sleeping. lack of sleep makes us go crazy and it really wont help with the hormones either. if your still not feeling like yourself in a few weeks, talk to your gp....tell them how you are finding it and tell your OH how you feel. i tired to keep it in and one day my sis called down and i let it pour out to her and its all normal hun, every mom feels like this. i told hubby that night and he didnt have a clue (men!!! ) but we are gettign through it together.

[lainey84]

Thanks girls..... well I am not feeling great on top of everything- having weird cramps in my tummy so am going to gp tomorrow.I haven't been able to eat anything really since Thursday and to drink anything hurts muscles.
We will get there - my OH let me sleep through to 8 am this morning despite little man being up all night- they were co- sleeping last night. I just hate the weepies- the poor child just looks at me when I am crying. Poor little dude
I love my son- at times you feel bad because you are so tired and they won't stop crying, its hard to feel love, you feel more exasperated and then they do something adorable later in day and you feel bad. My oh is just as tired but he is coping better than me. I really admire him for coping with everything. this then makes me feel bad as I don't seem to be coping as well.
Re the clothes: I had the opposite problem, my pre pregnancy clothes were fitting but not hanging right -- so I was in Penneys while ago re stocking my wardrobe- it made me feel a little better........... normally I feel great after shopping but not today, I am just wrecked tbh but once we get through next few weeks.........

[mom2djp]

i know what you mean lainey, there have been times when i just think i need to get out and leave, there was one day i was in the house by myself little man wouldnt stop crying and i was counting down the hours till hubby came home and then i got a phone call.....he had to work late and he wouldnt be home till later that night and i just looked at little man and thought about just leaving him cry and walking out.....i never would have but this did cross my mind cas i just couldnt take the crying anymore. men can cope better cas they dont have all the hormones running around thier bodies.

[mom2djp]

anyone else really starting to hate thier satellizer????? or just me???

[lainey84]

anyone else really starting to hate thier satellizer????? or just me???

steriliser???? I feel like a one man production line over it!
My little man is starting to sleep apart from waking for feeds........... he gets a bit dodgy from 9- 11 pm but that is copable once he sleeps at night!
Hope everybody is doing well.

[mom2djp]

sorry yes steriliser, i bloody HATE the thing. really starting to wreak my head. i will say i loved it for the week or so and then it was just aaarrrrrr bottles!!!

glad you little man is starting to settle a bit for you.

[soexcited]

I'll use a steriliser because Id be too nervous not to but is it really necessary.... madness really isnt it. boiling water should do!

[mom2djp]

oh i use mine, dont get me wrong, but my god i hate it. i have even started to put it into the press when its not in use so i dont have to look at it. and your right boiling water should do, but better to be safe than sorry right.

[soexcited]

oh i use mine, dont get me wrong, but my god i hate it. i have even started to put it into the press when its not in use so i dont have to look at it. and your right boiling water should do, but better to be safe than sorry right.

Yeh thats how I feel but I know it'l do my head in after a while!

[lainey84]

I have learned today how hard it is to be lonely- with only little man for company. I suppose it doesn't help when pregnancy issues are now causing trouble post pregnancy!
I am thinking the winter will be hard if the weather continues this way- there will be no chance of getting out in storms/ice etc so means just two of us.

Also my OH is not getting this baby blues thing at all...he thinks I am lucky to stay at home all day with no adult conversation, constant nappy changes/changes of clothes, being puked/pee'd on, and add crying baby for no reason for 6 plus hours and sore tummy on my part preventing me from eating more than 1 small meal a day!

Sorry for ranting I will go crazy if I don't get it out.

[babymakes3]

I know I'm a good ways off from posting here but I just wanted to say lainey I was talking to a friend of mine who had a serious case of the baby blues and her OH didn't get it at all. She said the worst thing she did was to bottle it up and try to do everything. After a couple of months of it she had a meltdown at her OH and he kinda started to understand from there but she said herself that if she'd told him how serious things were from the start it would have saved her a lot of time mentally stressing over things and just feeling crappy. She said that if I get the baby blues (which of course everyone does!) I'm just to let it all out and cry when I want and tell hubby if I feel I'm not handling things or if I feel he's not handling things right! She said the day she got home from the hospital it started for her, the house was messy and her OH was back in work pretty much straight away and she just felt like it was all too much on top of having a new baby, and she had a section too so she wasn't as mobile as she would've liked. Hope you're ok hun, maybe I'm making no sense to your situation at all but just said if I can help you by telling you what my friend passed on to me it'd be worth posting it here!

[lainey84]

I know I'm a good ways off from posting here but I just wanted to say lainey I was talking to a friend of mine who had a serious case of the baby blues and her OH didn't get it at all. She said the worst thing she did was to bottle it up and try to do everything. After a couple of months of it she had a meltdown at her OH and he kinda started to understand from there but she said herself that if she'd told him how serious things were from the start it would have saved her a lot of time mentally stressing over things and just feeling crappy. She said that if I get the baby blues (which of course everyone does!) I'm just to let it all out and cry when I want and tell hubby if I feel I'm not handling things or if I feel he's not handling things right! She said the day she got home from the hospital it started for her, the house was messy and her OH was back in work pretty much straight away and she just felt like it was all too much on top of having a new baby, and she had a section too so she wasn't as mobile as she would've liked. Hope you're ok hun, maybe I'm making no sense to your situation at all but just said if I can help you by telling you what my friend passed on to me it'd be worth posting it here!

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Same here started day I came home. We had blazing row last night which got a lot of tension out thank god. He just doesn't understand how hard it is to lose your identity e.g go from career to being at home lo- loss of free time, independence etc. He said that we should make a kind of roster so I get a bit of time to myself so I happy to give this a go. I think it hit home with him when I told him how I really feel in relation to baby and myself. He is doing a fab job putting up with us- I just wish he wouldn't give out to me when I cry or have a bit of moan about day( I think I am allowed)
Fingers crossed things will get better.

On a happier note, we are heading to a work dinner tonight- my aunt is minding baby so break will be nice- will be weird being out without him either in me or in a buggy! and weird being out with my OH and just the two of us

Thanks @ babymakes3 fro advice

[babymakes3]

You're welcome hun. Enjoy your time with OH tonight hun! And best of luck with the roster! Hopefully as time goes on your OH will realise that shouting at you when you are upset is not helping things! In the meantime don't let the thoughts of what he's thinking stop you from having a good cry if you need it xxx