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Postby claireee » Fri Aug 15, 2014 7:14 pm

i received a solicitor letter this morning if my ex who wants four hours of access to my daughter who is 15weeks. And then he wants over nite stays.. Am ebf have done everything on my own throughout my pregnancy his name is on birth certificate. He lives in northern Ireland so if he did get her down their would be a chance he wouldn't take her back. He wants to pay €200 monthly in matience! He smokes drinks and gambles from Thursday to Sunday.. Does anyone think he will get over nite access??
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Re: help?!

Postby cudleyb » Sat Aug 16, 2014 12:03 pm

My god Claire you have your hands full with your ex make sure you write everything down and keep records of txt etc as judges go on facts not hear say I learned that the hard way! Keep positive nothing much you can do other than put your case to the judge and hope that you get a decent one that rules in your favor
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Re: help?!

Postby Cinnabon » Sat Aug 16, 2014 6:33 pm

I don't think he would get overnight access yet. Make sure you get a good solicitor who specialises in family law. Not sure how this would work with 2 different jurisdictions involved.
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Re: help?!

Postby chloec214 » Sat Aug 16, 2014 7:19 pm

Not trying to scare you but be prepared for the worst,my sister brought her ex to court for maintenance and all she gets is 10euro a week! He also brought her to court for access even tho he was bearly in the childs life and got weekend over nights, Friday to Sunday and 2 weeks during the summer .it all depends on the judge you get and if you can at all get a good solicitor..prepare your self cuz court is very stressful and he will lie to get what he wants
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Re: help?!

Postby claireee » Sat Aug 16, 2014 9:11 pm

I've alot of msgs from him a abusing me and he drinks and gambles every weekend evening borrows money to do it
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Re: help?!

Postby tippergirl » Sun Aug 17, 2014 1:11 pm

It would prob be dealt with in the family law court covering where the baby now resides so wherever your nearest court is Clairee.

Things like his drinking & gambling wouldn't be held against him as such in court unless he's in & out of treatment or is getting into trouble within the criminal system. It's good to keep any abusive msgs/emails etc you get from him but that wouldn't necessarily go against him I'm court either as that's an issue between you & wouldn't mean the baby is in any danger from him. Maintenance wise it's often the case that the amount a father is instructed to give is very minimal so as little as he gives now it could be less after a courts instructions. Depending on how he puts his case across.

Definitely get some good legal advice/representation. The family law court is very black/white & it's a tough process for anyone.
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Re: help?!

Postby claireee » Sun Aug 17, 2014 8:41 pm

Will he get a nite in Newry even tho they know if he decides not to take her back there's nothing i can do cause he over border
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Postby tippergirl » Sun Aug 17, 2014 8:54 pm

It's hard to know in relation to that they might specify that his overnights are not over the border (they may not even grant overnights) & if they don't then I'd imagine there would be some stipulation in the court order to cover that situation!
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Re: help?!

Postby claireee » Sun Aug 17, 2014 10:00 pm

Thanks, he has said he would call up and take her down so ill be looking into supervision access
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Re: help?!

Postby Cinnabon » Sun Aug 17, 2014 10:53 pm

As you're ebf if you get a good solicitor he won't get overnights immediately. Get out the WHO recommendation to bfeed until at least 2 and get solicitor to fight that side of things. You really need to get yourself a good solicitor for this as we could all tell you something and then if it doesn't pan out you may not be prepared for it.

Good luck with it all.
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